Discussion about this post

User's avatar
JV's avatar
Nov 1Edited

Started to respond but feeling inept. Just want you to know I read this and hear you. I’m grateful that you share your talent and your experiences.

Expand full comment
Janice Powers's avatar

Doreen, so very sorry that your fear has been so deep all these years. I feel this personally and deeply, as my father died when he was 25, I was an infant, My mother remarried and my birth father became like a ghost lingering in the corner. I knew about him, but I knew so very little. it just wasn't talked about. I can't imagine having the shock of finding out the way you did ! that missing piece of my life was larger than I realized, and the time came for me to go back and find all the pieces. I could't do that until my stepfather and my mother were gone. I ended up writing memoir about reconnecting with my father decades after we lost each other, and it was beautiful and healing. Loss comes in many forms, but it always carries pain with it. My husband and I adopted two girls, and I believe my own experiences have helped me to understand some of their struggles. I hope so. And I also hope that you will continue to heal and to find peace. Sharing your story is an act of real courage.

Expand full comment
12 more comments...

No posts