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Sandra L. Young's avatar

I'm so sorry you had to deal with such jerky behavior. Moral: Mind one's own biz and don't make assumptions!

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Doreen Frances's avatar

Thank you Sandra! You know the old adage assume makes an ass out of U and Me! Indeed!

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Jerry Kaufman's avatar

Absolutely LOVED that story Dor. Mistaking you for a young girl I can understand. But for a boy NO FECKING WAY.

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Doreen Frances's avatar

Thank you Uncle Jer, I don't get it but you know folks be weird. LOL

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Susan Kuenzi's avatar

While I am sorry for the awkward and frustrating interactions, I laughed pretty hard about your story about the locker room incident. So funny. Thanks for sharing this great story!

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Doreen Frances's avatar

I'm glad you got a kick out of it. You gotta laugh right? Dark humor is my favorite. I got that from hanging around the Irish and reading the likes of Frank McCourt and Roddy Doyle.

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Susan Kuenzi's avatar

Yes, laughter makes life immensely better. I have a very funny story about something that happened when I was at the local gym swimming pool one time. It developed into a complete fiasco involving paramedics and all of us dripping wet outside waiting for the firemen to let us back in.

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Susan Kuenzi's avatar

I will sometime. I have shared the story when I have done some speaking. I might just record it as a video here eventually. 😊

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Doreen Frances's avatar

You should write it!

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Abraham Washington's avatar

great story, Doreen, and so timely.

I think every time Trump insults Kamala Harris, he's driving women voters over to the Dems.

I've collected a list of his insults here (https://kamala4prez.substack.com/p/teflon-kamala) but luckily we're in a new time zone and none of his insults are sticking.

But I'm sure they're infuriating women everywhere.

Enough of the ignorant old boys club.

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Doreen Frances's avatar

Thank you Abraham! I was scared to hit the "publish" button.

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Abraham Washington's avatar

the beauty and wonder of these substack newsletters is that they provide a platform to say whatever you want, to put your voice out there into the world, and people and comment (pro or con) and there's a civil discourse and conversation.

sometimes i'm disappointed when there's no response, but i've now published about 50 articles over two years and there's over 300 subscribers and followers so people are reading my posts and there's about a dozen of regular commenters.

But where else can we just say what we want, tell our own stories, and put it out into the world. For free.

My advice to anyone is just keeping posting. This is YOUR platform to express YOUR voice. Don't be afraid. Be fearless.

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Doreen Frances's avatar

Thank you for the encouragement. I'm learning every day.

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RayCyn's avatar

As a fair haired blue eyed girl I NEVER fit in. I was a Tomboy and loved math. I was not misgendered but called other things. In women beauty is currency in society. Or the vision of what a woman should be is currency.

Golda Meir would say she relied on her resources. Due to her looks she was told many a time you are the best man for the job.

To see what occurred in Paris Olympics in 2024 it’s evident we haven’t come far.

Excellent read and appreciated.

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Doreen Frances's avatar

Thank you Cynthia! I hope we finally break free of this oppressive way of thinking about how people should look.

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RayCyn's avatar

I hope so.

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Tanya Carlyle's avatar

Thank you for raising awareness. I'm sorry you had those negative experiences.

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